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Ho'oponopono - To solve problems within relationships

Ho'oponopono is used to resolve problems between two or more people. Many of these occur when there are differences of opinions. In the old days, during the Makahiki ( October through January), the Hawaiians participated in many sports events. Often, conflicts arose and Ho'oponopono was used to solve problems within relationships.


It was mid October and a fourth grade class was having the last event of their Makahiki, the Hukihuki. Hukihuki is a favorite sporting event during the fourth grade Makahiki. This game consists of two teams with six strong haumana on each team. All teams are aware of the rules. Ala'i is attached to the middle of the rope. The object is for the teams to tug and pull the attached la'i across the marked winning line.

The crowd was roaring and cheering their teams to victory. The polu team was Hui O Na Keikikane O Ke Kai and the ke'oke'o team was Hui O Na Kaikamahine O Ke Kai. Makaukau!, the kahea was given; both teams shouted 'Ae!. The whistle blew. Each side tugged and pulled with all their might. The crowd watched the la'i go from side to side. The judges on both sides of the la'i watched for that final marked crossing. The whistle blew and the judges pointed toward the winning team, Hui O Na Kaikamahine O Ke Kai. At that instant, several kaikamahine fell and the rope slipped out of their hands. The keikikane shouted for joy thinking they had won. Hui O Na Keikikane O Ke Kai claimed they had won because just as the whistle blew, they had pulled the la'i over their line. It was chaos. What do they do?

This is when ho'oponopono helped save the day. The judges and both teams were brought together. After much discussion, it was decided that the match would be repeated. With this decision made, both teams shook hands and got into their starting positions. Makaukau! Again the kahea and the reply 'Ae! were given. The whistle blew. Pulling, tugging, gripping and slipping, both teams did their best. The whistle blew to end the match, the judges pointed, and it was unanimous. The la'i had crossed over the marked line of Hui O Na Kaikamahine O Ke Kai. Showing good sportsmanship, the boys walked over and shook hands with the girls. They thanked them for a tough challenge and for the chance to resolve the disagreement using ho'oponopono.


'Ekahi: Brainstorm a list of problems that can occur within relationships in: the classroom, at home and on the playground.
'Elua: Brainstorm a list of possible ways to resolve problems.
'Ekolu: Choose 2 problems from each category from your list: classroom, home and playground. Role play the problems and do a ho'oponopono for each.

Hana Hou

'Ekahi: E-mail me your list of problems, your possible ways to resolve problems and your notes on your role plays.
'Elua: Have a Hukihuki, hopefully with no conflicts. Have fun!